I’m not playing this love game on easy mode

Hi besties,

Let’s talk about modern romance — or whatever we’re calling this mess where people send heart emojis but can’t form a real plan.

See, I’m a firm believer in making your intentions clear. If you want to talk to me, talk to me. If you want to date me, say it with your chest. This whole “let’s just vibe and see where it goes” era? No thanks. That’s not a vibe, that’s a holding cell for people who don’t know what they want but still want your time, your energy, and your good morning texts.

I’m a lover. A dangerous one. The kind who will remember your coffee order, the way you like your eggs, and the random story you told me at 1:47 a.m. I’ll gas you up in public like I’m your PR manager. I’ll make playlists with songs that remind me of you. And that’s why I can’t afford to waste this energy on someone who thinks “u up?” is flirting.

People keep saying “dating is hard these days.” I don’t think it’s hard — I think people are lazy. Real effort isn’t sending memes all day, it’s remembering to show up. It’s calling when you said you would. It’s choosing someone even when you have other options. If I’m giving you my attention, I’m making a choice. And I expect you to do the same.

Because I know my worth. I am not the “let’s hang out sometime” girl. I am the “when are you free? I already made the reservation” girl. I’m not the “just talking” stage. I’m the plot twist that makes the story worth telling. If you can’t match that energy, that’s fine — but you can’t have my number and my peace of mind.

So here’s the PSA: If you want me, bring effort, clarity, and maybe plantain chips. Otherwise, keep it moving, babe.

Anyway, that’s all. I just needed to get that out. How’s your heart doing?

– Apriene